• Kirsten Conner

The Fear of Failure

Failure is almost always a small voice in the back of my head telling me that what I'm doing as a writer isn't good enough. It's an integral lecture about not using the correct words, not explaining myself fully, or simply not adequately expressing my thoughts. This fear has held me back for years in many aspects and it still does sometimes. I find myself scrapping really good poems and deleting excellent starts to short stories and possibly novels because I'm so afraid of someone not liking what I have to say.

I find myself in an on-going battle and I'm sure many of you do, too. I was told from a young age that I am my own worst enemy. Oh, you've heard this expression, haven't you? Why are we so hard on ourselves? I should actually ask, why am I so hard on myself?

I think it stems from the idea that being my own biggest fan is narcissistic and conceited.

But I'm finally saying, 'hell no'. I am great writer. I have ideas and passion, and so do you! Get out a laptop, a notebook, or a bar napkin, and write! Let all of your thoughts flow out and don't convince yourself that you should stop. Write until you're out of room then write some more. There's nothing worse than keeping everything that you need to let out in.

Find your voice and tell your fear of failure to beat it.